I’m taking this week’s Friday Photoshare in a slightly different direction! You may recall that, in my introduction to Nunez Photography, I mentioned so many women shy away from having their picture taken. Every single woman I talk to tells me she’s not photogenic! Every one! It’s absolutely crazy and why I’m devoting today’s post to the message that you are enough.
I’ve written before about my belief that so much of our current marketing system is based on making women feel bad about themselves. We are constantly bombarded with the message that happiness and a perfect life are on the other side of the plastic packaging containing this shampoo, lotion, mascara, purse, pair of shoes, brand of candle, cleaning product, doodad, or gizmo. Magazines tell us to classify our bodies as an apple or a pear, and then spend a lifetime feeding us ads of dresses or jeans or shirts to flatter our figure (by which they mean hide those pesky flaws they informed us of!).
It’s all absolutely ridiculous because, truly, you are enough. If you want silky, voluminous hair, great, but if you don’t have it that doesn’t make you less valuable as a person or as a woman. It doesn’t mean you aren’t beautiful and it certainly doesn’t mean you aren’t ‘photogenic!’ Also, just because you don’t ‘look good’ in random shots someone snapped with their phone absolutely does not mean that you aren’t photogenic and shouldn’t be in pictures, and I’m on a mission to prove it!
I don’t want to attach specific quotes to images, so here’s a list of the things these lovely ladies have told me:
- “I have a t-shirt body”
- “I don’t want my face in the pictures”
- “I’m 10 pounds overweight”
- ” I don’t have a figure”
- “Oh no, I don’t want to be in the photos. I’m a mess.”
- “Just the kids, not me”
- Etc., etc.
At some point in time, I know I’ve heard all but one of these women tell me how “large” they are, and every one of them professed to being unphotogenic. Tell me, what do you think?
They’re all beautiful, aren’t they?!
And so are you.
You are beautiful. You are enough.
It is heartbreaking to me to hear beautiful, strong, capable, intelligent women put themselves down. I’ve heard some of the most amazing women I know say they’ll ‘probably never be truly satisfied’ with their appearance or that they have ‘such a long way to go.’
Right now you’re probably thinking something like “they’re all so pretty – why can’t they see it? But I’m still not photogenic.”
Stop it! Seriously, right now tell yourself STOP. Say it out loud, if you need to.
Then, either to yourself, aloud, or in writing, tell yourself I love and value myself unconditionally. Abundant, loving treatment comes to me in beautiful and unexpected ways.
Now do it again. Seriously. And keep doing it throughout your day, week, and life. If it feels a bit silly at first, just remind yourself that you’re counteracting all the ridiculous bombardment of advertising. It is estimated that women are currently exposed to up to 5000 ads a day! So many of those ads are geared towards implying that something is wrong with your your life, so be gentle if the process takes time. If you’d like a little more information on and assistance with self-acceptance, please stop by this post and snag yourself a free printable worksheet to help.
If you’re working on your mindset, I also encourage you to enroll in the brand-new “Spring Clean your Mindset” course. It’s a completely free 5 day challenge style class that anyone can sign up for (including current subscribers!). To learn more about it, please stop by Wednesday’s post.
I hope that this spring you can fill yourself with the spirit of awakening and begin to realize the power you already have inside you. <3